L'Amour Est ...

By "love", I mean friendship, man-woman relationships & fillial piety. Below are three of my life's lessons on such human relations.

(1) Best friends become the worst of enemies when they fall out. The more you trusted and/or loved each other, the more hatred there is when both get angry & split ways.

(Note: When you want to give more, think about the magnitude of the hatred if both were to split later. Commit only when you have a good confidence that a relationship or a friendship would last.)

(2) Many meetings with lesser outward expressions of fillial piety beat occasional visits with fuller expressions. For e.g., visiting one's parents weekly w/o doing much is better than visiting them once in two months & treating them to grand dinners and great outings.

(Note: Doing things in smaller denominations with a higher frequency is better than rarely doing them in bigger portions, even if the smaller denominations added up are lesser than the bigger portions. You get remembered in the former.)

(3) Maintaining friends is a social need. If lower needs (jobs, shelter, food & water etc) are threathened, spend lesser time on friends. Spending lesser time with friends could be a test too. Good friends will understand the virtues of letting another go for the latter's betterment (and it's temporary anyway). The less-than-deserved would fade away while the tested ones would be felt strongly. By the way, most of us wouldn't have a lot of good friends. Sometimes, just one would do; many others have none.

(Note: The closest of human relations does not oblige the parties to see one another very frequently. For e.g., we may not see our siblings so often, but we get the pains and would be damn worried when we know they're in trouble.)